Yup...

It's eye opening how many people do this... It would be nice if they were to ask an Adoptee to expand on this quote. There is way more involved in an Adoptee brain than we are given credit for. It hurts everytime someone says this... It feels like we aren't being heard... It puts us in a category of 'whiney bitch'...it's the same as having someone tell you that they know an adoptee and they don't complain about being adopted...everytime this happens to an adoptee it truly doesn't surprise me. We have to shut down for fear of being put down...we've already gone through the ultimate rejection so it feels like a common pain to have someone negate our feelings.