MARY LORRAINE DANROTH
What the fuck is wrong with our government of Canada that had their hands in our adoptions?
Why do they think it's okay to ignore the cries from the Triad? Is this why there are no studies done to help us get the help we need so desperately. If there are no studies than there must not be a problem...
How come we have to rely on other Countries for the research that they accomplished pertaining to the effects of our Adoption Trauma?
Does the First Mother feel like she got the picture perfect life by relinquishing her First Born?
Do the Adoptive Parents feel like they recieved what they wanted by taking someone else's unwanted child?
Does the Adoptee ever get to feel like someone really truly wants them?
Are these too simple of questions that our government doesn't think it's worth their time to help us? Do they not see the need to do studies on the effects of Adoption? Is it just us in the Triad that suffer silently? Are we too scared to speak up? Do we face backlash for saying something hurts but we can't quite put our finger on it?
One day I would like to see a Canadian study published nationally and taught in all schools...and I mean ALL schools! Kids need this education as well...as a child I really didn't understand anything about myself, it probably didn't help that my Adoptive Parents' biological son molested me...but now I am here at this stage of my life and I still know very little about who I am...
I know I can never get back what I lost out on but I can at least start new like being a newborn...
I believe in Family Preservation...I believe if my Grand Aunts or Grand Uncles or Grandparents were given the option to somehow keep me in the family it might have been an option...but here I sit still unknowing and wondering...
Being a secret and being asked to stay a secret did just as much damage as reaching out and being rejected...I can't see a win/win in adoption at this point unfortunately...