MARY LORRAINE DANROTH
Reading helps me to clarify so many aspects of myself. I have this weird idea that maybe the birth agency or government entity should have to provide the newly adopted baby with a family tree and pictures of the family that he has blood ties to. I think this would of helped me growing up. It's not like I would've had the means or desire to search out the birth family. It would've just given me clarity as to who I was.
Having done my DNA and being able to have built my tree has given me a sense of belonging more than anyone can know. It was and is fulfilling to have 'my' history.
I know that I will never have a connection to my birth mother as that is the way she wants it so I have had to come to grips with being unwanted again. I don't blame her, I don't fault her, I pity her. It hurts me to think that I am the cause of all of her pain. I wish that I could apologize to her.
I found a very helpful quote from a blog:
I could only accept myself when I was able to know,
and embrace my dual identity...
by both birth and adoption.
My Best Friends
Scott Alan Warner
Angela Barra’s Medium
Adoptee Rights Australia
NPE and Me
The Invisible Threads