The Pain of Rejection

Why does the birth family feel the need to not have communication with the adoptee? Do they not realize how much rejection comes from this reaction? Probably not...probably don’t care either...their life is perfect...they weren’t thrown away! Rejected from the beginning...that’s what we are...that’s what we’ve had to learn to cope with...what have they suffered? Nothing. How does it hurt them to communicate with the adoptee? Is it the conscience that they may have to deal with...learning that the birth mother/father was not perfect right from the beginning. Too bad is all I’ve got...so sad for them (sarcasm at its finest).