Seek First To Understand...

Some sayings are made as examples of a normal adoptees being. Right from the beginning we have had to understand the people that received us so that we can assess whether they are harmful or helpful...but the sad reality is that we are never to be understood. We are told over and over to “be grateful”, and to “get over it”.

Not long ago, I caved and read the classic of the personal development genre The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I admit, it’s a really good book — it lives up to the hype. You can read the 7 habits for yourself here, but I want to focus on one in particular because it has helped me immensely in both my personal and professional life:

Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

To me, this habit is the most important of the 7, without question.



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