Reunion

So Saturday was an exciting day...my cousin met his mother for the first time in 49 years!!! I love how these reunions can have a connection...although this one was deemed to be different from the start. My Aunt didn't want to place him in a different family. She wanted to do the best that she could for him and her. She was too scared to look for him for fear that he didn't know that he was adopted. She thought that his Adoptive family might be upset that she was intruding on their lives.

Most people don't seem to realize that the adoptee probably already knows that they were placed for adoption. They just instinctively know that they don't fit in... That they don't belong... That they're not like the rest. Most Adoptee's will not start their search until after their adoptive parents have passed... Out of respect for them. Adoptee's obviously know more about respect than they are ever given credit for. Unfortunately most people see our searching for knowledge of our ancestry as being disrespectful. That's what hurts... Being judged by your own family...