MARY LORRAINE DANROTH
I’ve read so many posts from certain adoptees that get right pissed off about people from the outside reading what we write and then turning it around and profiting from it. They complain about individuals within the triad for doing the same thing. How can it ever be wrong to pay someone for educating the world about the triad. Why get pissed off about someone reaching out to spread the word so that the new generation of Adoptee’s are better understood before they need the help that they are going to require.
I have seen Anne Heffron and Pam Karanova viciously attacked by Adoptee’s. How embarrassing to see anyone do this to anyone. It’s one thing to voice your opinion but to rant about your opinion when it is so angry doesn’t actually do anything good for the adoptee community.
Let it go. Anne and Pam aren’t out to get you. They are out on the front line trying their hardest to say what we feel in words that some of us can’t get out with words that the majority of the public will understand and listen to with love.
I know I wouldn’t want my children to see me go after someone for them making any money or status just from my being adopted. I know my children are just like me because they are my genetic mirror. I would hate to see them think that they have to be angry because they are part of me.
Go ahead and include my words in a way that makes sense to the kept. I have no jealousy for anyone that can write or speak better than me. I know I am unable to do what other people can do. I want the kept to be educated, I don’t want to be remembered as an angry adoptee as so many adoptees can be. I want to be remembered as someone who truly cares about the adoptee family.
This post is not directed at any one individual, it is meant to point out that I don’t want to be remembered in a negative way. I was given to a negative, angry adoptive family. I have to live with that forever. I can’t speak back to any family members that are not my genetic family. I know they will bring up the fact that I’m too sensitive and I’m ungrateful for all they have done for me. They saved me from someone who didn’t want me. I will always have to put on my smile and walk away. I’m better than them because I would never talk to them they way they talk to and about people.
This is what adoption feels like to me.
My Best Friends
Scott Alan Warner
Angela Barra’s Medium
Adoptee Rights Australia
NPE and Me
The Invisible Threads