Food for thought...

has anyone thought about what the adoptive family has had to go through? Yes indeed they chose to take on this chosen gift but in reality does anyone think about what they have chosen to get themselves into? Sometimes I think about how much crap I put my adoptive parents through and then try to talk myself into believing that it wasn’t me that did it to them...I tell myself that if it weren’t for my adoption issues and their son molesting me I probably would’ve been a great gift that they chose. But instead I get caught up in the mess of what happened to me and want to blame myself without realizing it wasn’t my fault. I’ve never wanted to play the victim card but some days I think it would be easier. And then I go through the guilt of wanting sympathy for something that happened to me and knowing that no one believes in giving sympathy to a victim. People tend to think that you are supposed to be strong and positive thinking. I think they forget that adoptees have always had to be strong and positive thinking since the day they were born. They have had to be warriors all their life...most people don’t have to live that way. Most people have happy/normal childhoods. Safe and protected.