FFS

It just dawned on me that when a non adoptee is informed of all the stress, confusion and disconnect that the adoptee has had to experience, they usually go to another adoptee and voice these discussions, and then they ask the other adoptee if this normal. This really puts the other adoptee in a place that they will not agree with for fear of being thought of as an ungrateful individual.

The reality is that practically all non adoptee’s believe that the adoptee is supposed to be grateful and if they voice their trauma they are horrible ungrateful people.

The adoptee’s are always told that they were gifts and chosen. It’s hard to live up to the fact that you were so perfect to be given as a gift but then always wonder why the person that conceived you didn’t think that highly of you. It’s harder to believe when the adoptee never gets to hear from the birth parents the circumstances that brought them to giving you away.