MARY LORRAINE DANROTH
I'm realizing lately that having to put my feelings into context is hard... They have been hard to talk to to anyone, mostly because they don't make sense. These aren't the normal kind of feelings that kept children have and it's not like there were any groups or therapists back in the day for us Adoptees. In fact even to this day there really isn't enough of the proper support system for us. It's no wonder that the adoptee's attempt suicide 4X more often than the kept children.
All of my reading and research has taken a toll on my life.
I hate having to think of all the other adoptee's that are struggling and not saying anything because they feel that they can't get help, or they feel that there isn't any help available. Or they feel like they are sounding ungrateful. Ungrateful is something that I have never heard another adoptee say they are. In fact is there even a way to remove the feeling gratefulness from the soul?
It's a sad, sad world that us adoptees live in. It's like we are the forgotten children from the 'baby scoop era'. We are meant to be seen and not heard, and lord forbid if we speak up! I have seen so much backlash to other adoptees about being angry when they really aren't. They are just voicing out loud what it's been like for an adoptee, no different than someone that had lost their mother during their very own birth. A loss is a loss...the kept hurts no less and no more than an adoptee., it's just a different pain, an explainable pain. But the adoptee is not supposed to grieve, they are supposed to be grateful for their mothers disappearance or accept the repercussions of sounding ungrateful. It really does seem like a no win way of life for the adoptees.
My Best Friends
Scott Alan Warner
Angela Barra’s Medium
Adoptee Rights Australia
NPE and Me
The Invisible Threads