MARY LORRAINE DANROTH
Do you know how frustrating it is when you screw up one person in a tree and then you go to fix it and you screw up even more people?
I believe 'the West's' have won. For some reason my Great Grandmother is trying to make things interesting... Although it could be my Great Grandfather that started the whole debacle... Makes me wonder what kind of personality they had?
It would've been nice to have heard some stories about the past...my past...my children's past...my grandchildren's past.
We have officially come to the last Birthday for the month of February.
It really was one hell of a roller-coaster ride. But apparently that is what Adoptees seem to have to learn how to deal with everyday. I don't think all kept children could handle some of the situations that we have been put through. Plus I wouldn't wish any of it on even my worst enemy.
People like to ask me why I needed to find out my Ancestry. I have to keep reminding them that I am not German...and I am sure as hell not Scottish! Ancestry has a new feature on there site that they call ThruLines, In theory it is a great idea...unless you're adopted. Apparently someone from the Miller side decided that they would add me to their tree without marking me as adopted. So in turn I now have twice as much work to figure out what matches to my trees. There is no DNA connection to this person so anyone that peruses the ThruLines experiment are going to come across the same problems that I have.
It's funny how this Adoption crap touches people in ways that they weren't expecting.
I have reached out to this person in the hopes that they understand what this will do to multiple peoples brains.
It seems like a spend a lot of time trying to make sense of what people put into their trees...I would love it if someone from my Birth Mothers side would just look inside themselves and reassess what they want to leave behind for future generations. It just seems unnecessary to be so petty about something that is in the past. If I as an adoptee have to learn and analyze who I am at 50+ years old, I'm sure anyone can do it. I'm also sure it would be easier for someone that has a better idea as to who they are and where they come from than any adopted person would.
Once again I AM NOT A GERMAN SCOT!!!!
So Saturday was an exciting day...my cousin met his mother for the first time in 49 years!!! I love how these reunions can have a connection...although this one was deemed to be different from the start. My Aunt didn't want to place him in a different family. She wanted to do the best that she could for him and her. She was too scared to look for him for fear that he didn't know that he was adopted. She thought that his Adoptive family might be upset that she was intruding on their lives.
Most people don't seem to realize that the adoptee probably already knows that they were placed for adoption. They just instinctively know that they don't fit in... That they don't belong... That they're not like the rest. Most Adoptee's will not start their search until after their adoptive parents have passed... Out of respect for them. Adoptee's obviously know more about respect than they are ever given credit for. Unfortunately most people see our searching for knowledge of our ancestry as being disrespectful. That's what hurts... Being judged by your own family...
I would really love to be able to share the stories of my family with the family that has shunned me and feel that I am of no value to them. I don't know if they really understand how much they mean to me...I know I don't deserve to have them in my life. I also know that I could give them so much.