Adoption Issues

Adoptive parents usually struggle with finding the words to answer their child's question, "why was I adopted?" A good response is, "Your birth parents chose adoption because they didn't feel able to parent you at that time." This statement provides the truth, allows room for birth parents to parent other children, and does not include love or money as reasons for the adoption. Saying a child was adopted because the birth parents loved them sets up love to mean leaving. Saying a child was adopted because the birth parents were poor sets up money and abandonment issues.

Source: Marlou Russell,Ph.D