"Adoptees are to be seen but not heard."

A lot of kept children have had to go through the whole "children are to be seen but not heard." Adoptee's get to live their whole life living with "Adoptees are to be seen but not heard.". Who in the hell thinks that Adoptee's don't have attachment problems? Heaven forbid if we aren't grateful...we are grateful but resentful at the same time. We get to grieve in private. We aren't allowed to be sad...we bury our pain until our body decides to shut down then we have to fix ourselves alone and in secret.